Today my sister helped me with a difficult and emotionally charged task. Today I let go of a lot of Facebook ‘friends’ that were not actually “friends”. As hard as it was for me to let go of some of these people, some I have actually been following for 13 years or more, it was necessary. Facebook should be about being connected to people you care about and really have some sort of connection with. Yes, there are still a few I have not actually met, but we chat, and have become friends. The others, I can follow on Instagram and Twitter, if I so choose.
Doing this has also given me the courage to let go of labels. I am not a vegan, I am not a vegetarian, I am not into Keto – no label, I eat healthy, and I do so with sustainability, environment, and compassion in mind. I have spent a lot of time, effort, and money trying to find a niche that I fit into, trying to make myself fit into – and there really is not one. I am uniquely me.
I do not need to belong to all of the really cool groups, and I do not need to be ‘friends’ with all the right people. I do not want to censor my posts for fear of offending someone, and I do not want to hurt anyone’s feelings, either. However, it is exhausting trying to live up to other people’s standards. Not to mention it is just ridiculous to even try – especially when the only person expecting me to do so is me.
So – if I post something that offends you, you have a few options:
- Move on to the next post in your feed
- Choose to hide said post
- Comment on the post (that might not be the best option, but it is there nonetheless)
- Pull up your big (insert gender you identify with) pants and move on. Realize that it isn’t directed at you, and that it isn’t your opinion, it is mine and it is on *MY* Facebook page.
- Unfollow me
- Unfriend me
Life is far too short for me to care so much about how other people perceive me. So take me as I am, or don’t let the door hit you…